Engaging men at work to prevent family violence - CFCA Connect ...

Written by Petra Begnell¹

We know the stats ? violence against women is a major public health problem and a violation of women?s rights. It is the leading contributor to illness, disability and death among women aged 15-44 ? their prime working years. We also know that men are the overwhelming perpetrators of violence against women (and indeed other men). What is not so well known is the impact on workplaces and the role workplaces can play in preventing violence against women before it occurs.

Workplaces are directly impacted by violence against women, costing Australian employers nearly $175 million annually. Nearly two thirds of Australian women who report violence by a current or previous partner are in paid employment. Whether the employee is a victim or perpetrator, a family member or a friend, acts of domestic violence affect workplaces? productivity, employee health, and occupational health and safety.

Workplaces play a strong role in influencing the behaviour of individuals and groups, and so are an ideal place to raise awareness of an issue such as violence against women, and work to prevent it.

To do this, Women?s Health Victoria was funded by VicHealth to engage men to prevent violence against women using workplaces as the setting. The result is our whole-of-workplace program ? Take A Stand against domestic violence ? it?s everyone?s business. Take a Stand is a unique, Australian first, whole of business approach to preventing violence against women and supporting workplaces and their employees who might be experiencing it.

Preventing violence means targeting its causes. Research (VicHealth, 2007) has shown that men are more likely to perpetrate violence against women if they:

• Hold conservative or traditional attitudes about gender roles;
• Believe in male authority;
• Have ?sexually hostile attitudes? towards women; and/or
• Believe that violence is trivial or can be excused because women ?ask for it? or ?deserve it?.

Therefore, strategies to prevent violence focus on promoting equal and respectful relationships between men and women.

Take A Stand uses the ?bystander approach?, which encourages individuals (both men and women) to speak up when they hear or see ?violence supportive? attitudes or behaviours. It approaches each person not as a perpetrator or victim, but as someone who can make a difference ? a partner in prevention.

Take A Stand sends a message that violence against women is everyone?s business and that everyone has a positive role to play in eliminating it. It provides employees with the skills to challenge ?violence supportive? attitudes and behaviours and creates new conversations around the issue.

The three elements of Take A Stand ? lead, train, promote ? approach workplaces as a community of individuals, providing a workplace with ways to prevent violence against women at all levels ? from commitment of the CEO and board, to adoption of a violence prevention policy, to building skills of individual employees to Take A Stand.

Our goal is that workplaces that engage with Take A Stand will be safer, healthier, more respectful and more productive.

For more information, see the Take a Stand website.

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1. Petra Begnall is the Program and Strategic Development Manager ? Prevention of Violence against Women, at Women?s Health Victoria.

References:

VicHealth (2007). Preventing violence before it occurs: A framework and background paper to guide the primary prevention of violence against women in Victoria. Melbourne.

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When Your Relationship Hits the Skids | ABC Marriage

No one wants take into consideration the end, specifically if the fire is still burning for one or both partners. When problems arise, you begin wishing you?re back to when when romance was the name of the game. Things are changing and you feel helpless. This is particularly hard to get over when your spouse seems secretive and hesitant to discuss the problem.

In the start, you may not have thought about what a long-term marriage means to you. Your spouse should know it, and you should know it, too. But there will always be bumps along the way. There may be things that you?ve done that were not well-received. Boredom may have incited an affair. If you?ve been feeling this way about your marriage, then it?s time to remind yourself of the love you once had.

If you wish to learn some tactics on emotionally connected with your spouse, so do most people in fully committed relationships. People in relationships always want to know how to make the good feelings last. The mundane day by day activities could put a damper on romance. But you know you can?t live your life every day with your head up in the clouds. Sensible options may replace romantically inclined ones. When things like these come about, romance may fade.

You must first reflect on what?s causing the burnout anyway. Maybe you?ve told a white lie in the past that led to more serious repercussions. Maybe trust is lacking in your marriage and this is why your spouse is definitely defensive. Your love may have suffered under all the possessiveness or clingy attitude. This is the most useful time to do something about your mistakes.

The next step is to point out your commitment. Your spouse may be feeling gloomy. You should let your spouse know that you continue to want to work with him to keep the marriage going. Trusting your spouse can make him feel more appreciated and forgiven.

Allow your genuine personality shine. Don?t act judgmental, specifically if you would like to make your spouse see your open mindedness. This is an excellent chance to show that you, too, can discover ways to forgive. Always remember that if you?re honest about your feelings, your spouse may feel inclined to be honest as well.

Speaking of honesty, you ought to be truthful about your intention to learn emotionally connected with your spouse. Some individuals can?t move on, but you must express your intention to move on. As you do your daily routine again, show your spouse that your marriage is important to you.

Finally, give each other space. You both must breathe and deal with troubled feelings. In between reflections, you must still spend quality time. As long as it is clear to both of you that you want to make the marriage work, you can do this.

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This $10K Chinese car comes equipped with remote control ? seriously

Google may have a self-driving car in the lab. But Chinese automotive company BYD has a car you can buy today ? with an actual, real, operational remote control.

The BYD Su Rui is an ordinary-looking 5-seat sedan with 154 horsepower and 36 miles to the gallon. But it comes standard with very un-ordinary remote control technology that allows owners to park the car in tight spots, call the car over to pick them up in case of inclement weather, or show off for their friends ? all at the sedate pace of 1.2 miles per hour.

At least, until hackers figure out a way to boost that speed.

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The Su Rui remote control is not exactly like James Bond?s remote control in Tomorrow Never Dies.

BYD won a ?Best Leading Science and Technology? award at the 2012 Beijing Auto Show for its remote driving technology. And while it won?t allow owners to drive their vehicles at the speed and distance of James Bond?s BMW in Tomorrow Never Dies, it is the first ever full-size vehicle you can treat like an RC toy from Radio Shack.

Using the included remote, drivers can start the car, move it forward and backward, and turn. Owners can also turn on the heat or A/C to get the cabin temperature just right.

The remote control functionality, however, is only operational when the driver is within 30 feet of the vehicle, likely as a safety measure. Again, I?m sure that interested hackers will increase that range shortly. In fact, install a camera, extend range via WiFi or radio ? and the remote control could get even more interesting.

And I?m not sure why hackers would only mod their own vehicles. I?m predicting here and now that we will hear stories of car hacking, whether malicious or prank. And possibly even police reports of vehicles being stolen without any actual thief being physically present.

The Su Rui is available for just $10,365 USD for the base 1.5 liter model, or $15,710 for a turbo-charged version.

Image credit: BYD

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Ex-Marine tweeted about killing coworkers in '09

Middlesex County prosecutor Bruce Kaplan is seen through two broken windows as he arrives at the scene of a shooting at a Pathmark grocery store in Old Bridge, N.J., Friday, Aug. 31, 2012. At least three people have died in the shooting. A law enforcement official briefed on the shooting says the person believed to be the shooter is among the dead. (AP Photo/Julio Cortez)

Middlesex County prosecutor Bruce Kaplan is seen through two broken windows as he arrives at the scene of a shooting at a Pathmark grocery store in Old Bridge, N.J., Friday, Aug. 31, 2012. At least three people have died in the shooting. A law enforcement official briefed on the shooting says the person believed to be the shooter is among the dead. (AP Photo/Julio Cortez)

Police investigate a shooting at a PathMark grocery store on Route 9 in Old Bridge, N.J., Friday, Aug. 31, 2012. A gunman allegedly entered the store early this morning when the store was closed to the public and fired a shotgun killing two employees and then himself. (AP Photo/Rich Schultz)

Officials remove evidence from a Pathmark grocery store where three people died in an early morning shooting in Old Bridge, N.J., Friday, Aug. 31, 2012. Officials say a supermarket employee killed two people at the store early Friday and then fatally shot himself. Authorities say he opened fire on employees he saw when he walked into the Pathmark store. The store's front windows were shattered by gunfire. The motive is being investigated. (AP Photo/Julio Cortez)

County officials remove one of three bodies from a Pathmark supermarket on Route 9 in Old Bridge, N.J., Friday, Aug. 31, 2012. Officials say a supermarket employee killed two people at the store early Friday and then fatally shot himself. Authorities say he opened fire on employees he saw when he walked into the Pathmark store. The store's front windows were shattered by gunfire. The motive is being investigated. (AP Photo/Rich Schultz)

Police officers remove a computer hard drive from a Pathmark supermarket on Route 9 in Old Bridge, N.J., Friday, Aug. 31, 2012. Officials say a supermarket employee killed two people at the store early Friday and then fatally shot himself. Authorities say he opened fire on employees he saw when he walked into the Pathmark store. The store's front windows were shattered by gunfire. The motive is being investigated. (AP Photo/Rich Schultz)

OLD BRIDGE, N.J. (AP) ? Unhappy with his life as a Marine stationed in California, Terence Tyler posed a question three years ago on Twitter: "is it normal to want to kill ALL of ur coworkers?"

Struggling with depression, he left the Marines and recently started working at a supermarket in New Jersey.

On Friday morning, Tyler shot two co-workers and himself, police said. The 23-year-old, clad in desert camouflage gear, opened fire at a Pathmark store in Old Bridge Township, authorities said.

Authorities are investigating his motive, but family members said Tyler was discharged from the Marines two years ago after suffering from depression and had never gotten over his mother's death about five years ago.

Authorities said Tyler left his job as an overnight clerk at the Pathmark about 3:30 a.m. He drove off and returned to the store shortly afterward with a handgun and an assault rifle, Middlesex County Prosecutor Bruce Kaplan said. About a dozen workers were in the closed store, putting new prices into a computer.

Tyler fired more than 16 rounds from his rifle ? shooting at an employee standing outside and blowing out windows, authorities said. He shot at five other workers in an aisle, killing Christina LoBrutto, 18, and Bryan Breen, 24, the prosecutor said.

Tyler, who began working at the supermarket less than two weeks ago, then drew his handgun and killed himself, Kaplan said.

Several ammunition magazines were recovered along with the rifle and a .45-caliber handgun, he said.

"I do not believe that they were specifically targeted," Kaplan said of the two victims. "I believe everybody in the store was a target."

John Niccollai, president of a foodworkers union, said many of the employees escaped harm when an assistant manager directed them toward a back door.

Breen and LoBrutto were both cashiers. They normally worked day shifts, but pulled overnight shifts every few weeks to put in new price changes, Niccollai said. Tyler began work for Pathmark Aug. 20 as a night clerk, stocking shelves.

Pathmark worker Miranda Miranda said she steered clear of Tyler.

"The way he looked at me, he gave me an uneasy vibe," she said.

Miranda usually worked the overnight shift Thursday but said LoBrutto agreed to work the shift for her a few weeks ago. "That could've been me," Miranda said.

Tyler was discharged from the Marines in 2010, nearly two years in the service at Twentynine Palms, Calif., according to the Marines. The infantryman from New York City never served overseas, said Marine spokeswoman Capt. Kendra Motz. She wouldn't comment on the circumstances of his discharge.

Tyler's Twitter account, which has a photograph identified by family members as Tyler, interspersed posts about hating Marine life, expressions of violence, and his take on football, movies, women and other interests.

"Sigh,this weeks gonna b gaaaaaay," he wrote in June 2009, using the handle (at)Tylerbkstyle. "smh is it normal to want to kill ALL of ur coworkers?Maybe but I'm actually in a position where I can,smh"

Tyler again Tweeted months later about killing.

"I'm starting to see why plp go on killin sprees," he wrote. And these (obscenity) are reeeeeeally pushin my kill everyone I see button."

At the top of Tyler's Facebook page was the motto: "Be optimistic. All the people you hate are going to eventually die."

Christopher Dyson, Tyler's uncle, said Tyler left the Marines after suffering from depression. A cousin said Tyler had been hospitalized.

Tyler, who also lived in San Diego, left California in June for New Jersey, where he lived with his sister and uncle.

"He was a quiet cat, you know?" said Dyson, who works at the store and helped Tyler get a job there.

His cousin, Shanteya Dyson, said Tyler had not been the same since his mother died of cancer.

"That was his best friend. He was always a quiet guy. But he got more quiet. He really didn't speak at all. He was just blank," Dyson said.

Tyler spent the July 4 weekend drinking at Jersey shore bars with Manase Acheantong.

"We went out. We had drinks. He was a normal kid. He didn't start no fights. He didn't seem crazy," said Acheantong, 25, of Old Bridge.

Pathmark's parent company, Montvale-based Great Atlantic & Pacific Tea Co., said the company was "deeply saddened" by the shooting and was cooperating with investigators.

LoBrutto and Breen both graduated from Old Bridge School. LoBrutto was a horn player in the school band and graduated this year, Schools Superintendent Timothy Brennan said. Breen graduated in 2006.

Jessica Ruano knew LoBrutto from school. "She was a really bubbly girl," said Ruano, 16. "She was silly. She was sweet."

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Henry contributed to this report from Newark. Associated Press writers Alex Katz in New York City, Geoff Mulvihill and Larry Rosenthal in Trenton, and Julio Cortez in Old Bridge also contributed to this report.

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Five reasons to travel to Peru | Latin America & Caribbean Travel ...

Posted by medios on Aug 31, 2012 in Accommodations, Festivals, Food, Gastronomy, Peru, Real Estate, Services, South America, Tours, TradeShows, Travel | 0 comments

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1. Visit two of the five of the New Wonders of the World:

• Machu Picchu: The Peruvian destination par excellence, the hidden citadel of the Incas built the fifteenth century as possible an estate for the Inca emperor Pachacuti. Its construction began around 1400, but dropped to almost a century later, shortly before the time of the Spanish conquest. It?s probably the most amazing urban creation of the Inca Empire at its height, its giant walls, terraces and ramps seem as if they have been cut naturally in the continuous rock slopes.
• The Amazon:Visitors the Amazon River?are in what looks like a tropical garden where a large variety of flowers, birds and butterflies abound. Amazon Sinchicuy used water treatment systems, disposal environment friendly solid and liquid waste and biodegradable treatments, approved fire safety devices, equipment food preservation, among other facilities. Come and marvel at this amazing site.

2. Culinary Delights:

Peruvian cuisine is considered one of the great cuisines of the world. The gastronomic guru Anthony Bourdain said Lima as the ?culinary capital? of South America. Peruvian cuisine reflects the merger of the practices and local ingredients and influences from Spain, China, Italy, West Africa and Japan.

Each year takes place in Lima?s second largest food festival in the world, Mistura. This year you visit us between 07 and 16 September, will have the opportunity to try and make your mouth water with the best of Peruvian cuisine hundreds of stalls offering specialties of each of the different regions of Peru.

3. Incredible Biodiversity:

Peru has one of the greatest biodiversity in the world due to its spectacular amount of habitat. You can see brightly colored birds, mammals, primates and butterflies, and native flora with unique features. For example, the Tambopata National Reserve which houses some of the most biodiverse rainforests in the country (and possibly the entire Amazon basin), often referred to as the most biodiverse place on Earth. It hosts over 10,000 species of plants, over 600 species of birds, more than 1,000 species of butterflies and 100 species of amphibians and reptiles.

4. Cusco was declared the best destination in Latin America:
Travel and Leisure magazine gave the city of Cusco the ?Best City? in Mexico, Central America and South America by 2012. ?Cusco is a charming colonial city of orange tile roofs and white stucco walls. Cuzco is the definition of vibrant. It is notable for its charm and friendliness.

5. Paradise for Adventurers:
If you?re looking for pure adventure, Peru is the ideal destination. Hiking, paragliding, rafting and surfing are just some of the activities that can be found, all in some of the world?s most beautiful landscapes. The Inca Trail to Machu Picchu is a perfect example of this. It is one of the most popular treks in Peru and South America.

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Frustration, fear, sadness and anger are among the emotions you may go through as you deal with a personal bankruptcy. People who experience this process are always worrying about how to take care of their debts. However, help can be found by considering bankruptcy. The tips in this article will show you how.

If you are facing financial difficulty, it may not be wise to go through with a divorce. People who divorce often must file for bankruptcy right away, because they were unaware of the financial difficulties facing them. You should make every effort to attempt a fix.

Make sure that you are as honest as you can be when you file for bankruptcy. Hiding assets can cause immediate dismissal. Make sure that you disclose all income and assets that are relevant to the bankruptcy proceedings. Doing so helps you demonstrate good faith and facilitates an appropriate outcome.

TIP! Make sure that your debts are dischargable under bankruptcy. Student loans, taxes, and child support are usually immune to bankruptcy, for example.

Make certain that you comprehend the differences between Chapters 7 and 13. All debt will be eliminated with Chapter 7. All of your financial ties to the people you owe money to will disappear. But, with Chapter 13, you will be in repayment plan for about 5 years prior to any debts you have being totally dissolved. You have to know what differs between all of the kind of bankruptcy, so you know which is one is ideal for you.

Pay your bills in a timely manner and always pay a bit more than the minimum amount due. Many people only pay what the trustee orders them to, which means it takes longer for the debt to be completely repaid.

If you have to file for bankruptcy, ensure that you supply all your financial information. Omissions or errors may cause your case to take more time to resolve, or even be rejected entirely. Add absolutely everything to your list, including small amounts. Include all jobs, assets and loans.

When you realize that you probably will file for bankruptcy, do not pay your creditors or try to avoid bankruptcy by spending all of your regular or retirement savings. Retirement accounts should never be accessed unless all other options have been exhausted. While dipping into your savings is likely to be necessary, avoid wiping it out completely to prevent leaving yourself with little financial security in the future.

TIP! Bankruptcy is a difficult time that always leads to lots of stress. Look for a good attorney who can help you through the process.

Pick the right time to file. The timing of your filing could be important to its success. While there are times that it is ideal to file soon, there are other times in which you should wait. Discuss your particular situation with your bankruptcy attorney to determine the best time to file.

Lots of individuals who previously filed bankruptcy vow to shun the use of credit cards or lines of credit in the future. This isn?t wise since you need to use credit to build credit. If you do not use credit, you will not rebuild the type of credit you will need in making future purchases. Start with just one card in order to move your credit in the direction you want it to go.

Many people think obtaining financing after filing for bankruptcy is impossible. In some cases, this might be true, but in others, your credit score may actually end up higher post-bankruptcy than it was pre-bankruptcy. Of course, this assumes that you pay your bills faithfully once your bankruptcy is discharged.

Prior to filing, do not use your credit card to get a cash advance, knowing your debts will be eliminated. That is considered fraudulent behavior, and you can still have to pay the credit card back, bankruptcy or no.

TIP! If you file for a Chapter 7 type of bankruptcy, not all debts magically disappear so don?t have an expectation that they will. Secured debt obligations may require you to reaffirm them with the creditor, and other debts may not be dischargeable at all.

Take steps to ensure your home is protected. Losing your home is thought of as common in bankruptcy cases, but it is by no means inevitable. Whether you get to keep your home depends on a few things, including its value and whether you have debts like a second mortgage or HELOC. It can be worthwhile to understand the homestead exemption law to see if you qualify to keep living in your home under the financial threshold requirements.

If it looks like you?re in for a big hit on your taxes, don?t necessarily assume bankruptcy is a way out for you. It is not unheard of for individuals to pay their tax bill with their credit card and subsequently file for bankruptcy protection. They do this thinking they can skip paying taxes somehow because they left the balance on their credit card. However, bankruptcy laws forbid this, and you will be stuck with taxes owed as well as credit card interest.

To repair your credit worthiness after bankruptcy, opening a new line of credit may be a good idea. This is hard if you have bad credit, but using a secured credit card is something that you could do. You will definitely be forced to pay a great deal in interest either way, but the end result is worth it. A secured card will help you re-establish good credit and make you eligible for credit in the future.

TIP! Quickly decide to start being more fiscally responsible prior to filing. You must not doing anything that will raise your current level of indebtedness for several months before filing a bankruptcy petition.

If your paycheck is larger than your debts, avoid filing for bankruptcy. Bankruptcy may seem to be the easy way out, but your credit report will show the scar for the next ten years.

Don?t pay for an attorney consultation and ask him or her anything you want to know. Most lawyers will meet with you for free and give you helpful advice, so meet with several. Only choose an attorney once all your concerns are answered to your satisfaction. There is no need to feel rushed to decide to file after you talk with your bankruptcy lawyer. That gives you the chance to speak to a number of lawyers.

If you are in the midst of a Chapter 13 bankruptcy, it is possible to apply for certain loans. It is a little more difficult, though. First, your trustee will have to approve the loan. Present a planned budget that shows how you can take on the loan payment and stay current. It will also be necessary to show why a new purchase needs to be made.

Prior to filing for bankruptcy, be sure you have investigated all of your alternatives. There are other options available, such as credit counseling for consumers. Bankruptcy has a negative effect on your credit reports, in that it is permanently there. Before you take this step, make sure all your options have been considered.

TIP! Educate yourself about state bankruptcy laws and possible outcomes before filing your petition. Laws are ever-evolving.

If you?re continuously making delinquent payments and are constantly missing payments, filing for bankruptcy might just be a kinder, gentler solution for you. While bankruptcy will show up in you credit file for the next 10 years, you can begin the process of making your credit situation better right away. One of the good things about bankruptcy is that you can start fresh.

Check your bankruptcy papers to make sure they are accurate. Although your attorney will fill out your paperwork for you and file it, remember that the accuracy of the information is your responsibility. Attorneys generally handle multiple cases at once. There?s a chance they may overlook or confuse details. This is why it is important to make sure that every bit of paperwork is accurate.

After reading this article, hopefully you now know that bankruptcy does not have to mean doom and gloom. Although you may feel bothered at first, you will see that you can overcome the effects of bankruptcy. With the advice in this article, you can ascertain the best way to escape your debt

Hire a lawyer with a great reputation. Once you have narrowed down your choices to one, call and ask if they offer a free consultation. Take all financial information when going to a consultation. They can enlighten you to the whole process.

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